Recovering Your Honesty Worksheet

Denial about Addiction

Make a list of things that you did to hide your addiction.

Verbal Lies:  List lies about when, where, and how you drank or used drugs. Identify the people that you lied to.

I lied to:                                  Examples of my dishonesty about my drinking/using behavior

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Other Lies:

Identify examples of other lies that you told during your addiction. They may or may not

be directly or indirectly related to addiction.

 

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Dishonest Behavior:

 Identify other deceptive behavior in connection with your addiction.

Who were you dishonest with? How were you dishonest in your behavior?

 

I was dishonest with:            Examples of my sneaky, dishonest, deceptive behavior

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What did you do when you were caught in lies and other forms of dishonesty?

Identify the impact of your dishonesty on your significant others, including spouse, parents, kids, coworkers, boss, etc.

Who I hurt:                            Examples of how my behavior hurt them

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Identify examples of how your behavior hurt yourself.

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Identify the feelings that occurred because of your dishonesty with others and yourself.

Identify what you did with those feelings when they occurred.

 

Feelings                                How I dealt with my feelings:

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Identify any forms of dishonesty that are continuing in your recovery.

Make a list of people that you are still being dishonest with. List examples of what you are being dishonest about.

I’m dishonest with                Examples of what I am still being dishonest about:

 

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Make a list of positive effects that could come about from taking the risks to be

honest in those areas that you continue to be dishonest about.

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Identify any current barriers to getting honest with the people in your life. Identify a

plan for getting through those barriers to be able to get more honest in recovery.

 

Barriers                                  Plan on how to get past the barriers to be more real with the                                                                 people in my life.

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Develop a goal for improving your ability to be honest in recovery. Develop a plan for

how you can continue to become more and more honest with yourself and others during

your continuing recovery.

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